Friday, August 26, 2016

Being A Caregiver for a Spouse or Loved One

Scripture of the Day:

I John 3:1

"Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed upon us, that we should be called the children of God." 





So many of my blog topics come from what I hear from family and friends through Facebook or other venues. One has come to my attention that is appalling. More than one of my friends is being criticized for the kind of care giving that they have or are giving to their spouse. I can tell you that it was as hard on me to watch my husband as we went through this disease and treatment as it was on myself. He is one that has to have control and there just is none over breast cancer or any other kind. He emptied the draining tubes when I first had my mastectomy. That was just gross. He did all the shopping and made all the meals for months. When I was sick from chemo, all he could do was sit with me. It was so frustrating to not be able to do anything or go buy the cure. When my hands and feet started to show burns, he found horse liniment and got me gloves that they use in his shop so that I could sleep with the goo and not get it all over everything. And it really helped. He had to be strong for me. He'd hide his tears so that I could see them. He wasn't always successful.This doesn't begin to cover the things that he dealt with because of me. After 5 years, he still is watching over me, checking to see if I'm ok. Making sure I can do the things I'd like to do. It was just exhausting on him as it was on me. 

Now imaging what it was like if your spouse didn't make it. I cannot imagine what he/she went through before he/she left us and certainly cannot imagine what her spouse did to make life easier for him/her as he/she failed!!! If you don't live in the house that is dealing with cancer of any sort, you should really keep your nose out of it. If you want to be helpful, take a meal that he/she doesn't have to cook. Get the grocery list and do some of the shopping. If children are involved, take them to the park. Volunteer to do the laundry or clean the house. None of what I have mentioned costs large amounts of money and mostly time. Time that is so short for so many. 

Then there are the unscrupulous families and friends. I'll leave that to your imagination. I know that I don't have to worry about that with my own family, thank you God. So many wish they could say the same thing and that's just sad.

I have a page that shows the ones that I know of that have cancer of any kind. Please add these to your prayer lists and pray for the families of those whose journey is over. 

If you are a caregiver, the following website might be helpful. If for no other reason than to know that you are not alone. 


If you are making this journey as I am, may God bless you with His healing touch. I know he loves you.

Sunday, August 7, 2016

10 Celebrtities Diagnosed with Breast Cancer

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These women have bee diagnosed with Breast Cancer. They each have a different story to tell. Some of them I know and some I've never even heard of. But I expect that will be the case for all of us. Missing in this list is Angolina Jolee and Sheryl Osborn. Neither of these have ever had breast cancer. I don't want to minimize their risk. They both have the BRCA gene for breast cancer and are at risk. Their decision to just go ahead and get it done was certainly a hard decision and opened choices to millions of women. But in my personal opinion, it is not the same as those of us who are actually down in the trenches and fighting for our lives. 

I found the following women on a Health site and the links as at the bottom of this page. Notice the different ages of all of them. Breast Cancer does not discriminate in age, ethnic background, financial status or gender. 


Cynthia Nixon (diagnosed 2006 at 40)

At first, Sex and the City star Cynthia Nixon was hesitant to reveal that a cancerous tumor had been discovered in her right breast during a routine mammogram. Nixon, best known for playing the responsible Miranda Hobbes, didn't want her condition to become public during her treatment. "I didn't want paparazzi at the hospital, that kind of thing," Nixon told the New York Daily News after treating her cancer with a lumpectomy and radiation. But Nixon, whose mother also survived breast cancer, decided to tell her story when she realized it might serve as an inspiration for other women at risk.

Sheryl Crow (diagnosed 2006 at 44)

"I am a walking advertisement for early detection," Sheryl Crow said in October 2006 about catching suspicious calcifications in both of her breasts on a routine mammogram. The rocker immediately postponed a tour, went into surgery, and had seven weeks of radiation, supplemented with acupuncture and herbal teas. Crow—whose engagement to cyclist Lance Armstrong ended around the time she was diagnosed—was able to skip chemotherapy because her cancer was caught so early. In March 2007, Crow (who has no close family history of breast cancer) petitioned Congress to fund research into possible links between breast cancer and environmental factors.



Edie Falco (diagnosed 2003 at 40)

When Sopranos star Edie Falco was diagnosed with breast cancer, she kept it almost completely secret; she barely told a soul on the set of the six-season HBO hit series on which she played mob wife Carmela Soprano. Falco quietly went into treatment and emerged cancer-free—and with shorter hair—in 2004.

She says she chose to stay mum because she didn't want any fuss or pity. "It was very important for me to keep my diagnosis under the radar... because well-meaning people would have driven me crazy asking, 'How are you feeling?'" Falco told Health. Instead, she "bucked up, put on my Carmela fingernails, and was ready to work."

Kylie Minogue (diagnosed 2005 at 36)

A misdiagnosis almost lost Australian pop star Kylie Minogue her chance to fight—and defeat—breast cancer. It wasn't until she decided to go in for a second round oftests that doctors found the lump in her left breast. A partial mastectomy, chemotherapy, and radiation followed.

The singer has emerged from her ordeal with a plea that women should trust their gut more when they go to the doctor. "Just because someone is in a white coat and using big medical instruments doesn't necessarily mean they’re right," she told Ellen DeGeneres in 2007.


Elizabeth Edwards (diagnosed 2004 at 55)

Elizabeth Edwards—the estranged wife of former presidential candidate John Edwards, mother of three, and a former bankruptcy attorney—put off mammogramsfor four years. Then in 2004 she discovered a large lump in her right breast that turned out to be cancerous.

After chemotherapy, surgery and radiation, Edwards appeared at first to be cancer-free. But in 2007, doctors discovered the cancer had spread to one of her ribs, hip bones, and lungs. She lost her battle with cancer in 2010, at the age of 61.

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Robin Roberts (diagnosed 2007 at 46)

Good Morning America anchor Robin Roberts had made a name for herself interviewing A-list athletes, actors, and other newsworthy personalities, but on July 31, 2007, she turned the camera on herself to announce she'd been diagnosed with breast cancer.

"I did a self breast exam and found something that women everywhere fear: I found a lump," she said in a message posted online the day of her surgery. Roberts completed eight chemotherapy treatments, followed by radiation. In 2012, she underwent a bone marrow transplant for MDS, or myelodysplastic syndrome. 


Jaclyn Smith (diagnosed 2002 at 56)

Seventies icon and ex-model Jaclyn Smith may be best remembered as Kelly Garrett, one of three sexy private investigators in the television series Charlie’s Angels, but lately she's in hot pursuit of breast cancer instead of hardened criminals.

In 2002, the fashion and home furnishings entrepreneur and host of the Bravo show Shear Genius discovered a lump in one of her breasts during a routine checkup. She had a lumpectomy and radiation, and later became active with groups such as Susan G. Komen for the Cure. Smith also speaks publicly about the recognizing breast cancer risk factors as part of the Strength in Knowing program.



Christina Applegate (diagnosed 2008 at 36)

For most women, the idea of parting with one breast, let alone two, is unimaginable. But that's what actress Christina Applegate opted to do after she was diagnosed with breast cancer in the summer of 2008, even though cancer was found in only one breast.

Applegate—who tested positive for the BRCA-1 gene mutation and whose mother is a repeat breast cancer survivor—said she chose mastectomy to reduce the chance that the cancer could spread or come back. Applegate later founded Right Action for Women, a nonprofit that provides financial aid to women at high risk of breast cancer.


Melissa Etheridge (diagnosed 2004 at 43)

Rocker Melissa Etheridge famously performed bald during a Janis Joplin tribute at the 2005 Grammys after completing a rigorous regimen of chemotherapy and radiation following a lumpectomy. She had found a lump in her left breast the year before while examining herselfin the shower and was inspired to write the song “I Run for Life” about the battle against breast cancer.

Etheridge has lost her father, aunt, and grandmother to cancer, and describes her own experience as leading to a "spiritual awakening." "It taught me that I shouldn't do anything that I don't love completely," she said in September 2007.

Diahann Carroll (diagnosed 1998 at 63)

For Grey's Anatomy scene-stealer Diahann Carroll, who played the mother of Dr. Preston Burke on the TV hospital drama, breast cancer came at a very common age for U.S. women—her early 60s. But Carroll (who in 1968 became the first African-American actress to star in her own television series,Julia had no family history of the disease and was caught by surprise. She underwent a lumpectomy and 36 radiation treatments and then went on the road to urge more postmenopausal women to get tested. In 2008 she released the tell-all book, The Legs Are the Last to Go: Aging, Acting, Marrying & Other Things I Learned the Hard Way ($10; amazon.com).

10 Celebrities with Breast Cancer

If you are making this journey as I am, may God bless you with His healing touch. I know He loves you.



Thursday, August 4, 2016

Exercise Eases Memory Problems in Women Treated for Breast Cancer

Scripture of the Day:

III John 2: 2
Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.




Exercise Eases Memory Problems in Women Treated for Breast Cancer

Many women treated for breast cancer say they have problems remembering, thinking, and concentrating during and after treatment. These problems are commonly called “chemo brain” or “chemo fog” -- though women treated with hormonal therapy also complain about memory issues. Doctors call these issues “cognitive impairment” or “cognitive problems.”
Some women may have trouble with:
  • learning new tasks
  • remembering names
  • paying attention and concentrating
  • finding the right words
  • multitasking
  • organizing thoughts
  • making decisions
  • remembering where things are (keys, glasses, etc.)
A study found that women treated for breast cancer who did more moderate-to-vigorous exercise reported fewer memory problems.
In the study, 1,477 women who had been treated for breast cancer filled out questionnaires about:
  • how much they exercised
  • how self-confident they felt (called “self efficacy” by the researchers)
  • how depressed they felt
  • how much they worried about recurrence (the cancer coming back)
  • how stressed they felt
  • how anxious they were
  • their levels of fatigue
  • how they rated their memory function
The women filled out the questionnaires twice: once just before the study started and again 6 months later when the study ended.
A random sample of 362 women in the study were selected to wear an accelerometer during the study. An accelerometer is a device that measures how fast something is moving.
In both groups -- those who self-reported physical activity and those who wore the accelerometer -- women who did more moderate or vigorous physical activity reported fewer memory problems.
Moderate to vigorous physical activity included:
Women who did more physical activity also had:
  • more self confidence
  • less stress and anxiety
  • less fatigue
All of the above factors also are linked to better memory function.
While this study looked for an association between exercise, memory issues, and stress and fatigue, there are many other benefits to regular exercise if you’ve been diagnosed with breast cancer:
  • a lower risk of breast cancer coming back (recurrence)
  • easier to maintain a healthy weight
  • more energy
  • better mobility
  • more muscle mass and strength
  • healthy bones
  • better sleep
If you’re busy with work, household chores, and family matters, finding time to exercise almost every day can be hard. Exercising also can be extremely difficult if you’re recovering from breast cancer treatment or having troubling side effects. Still, it’s worth your while to make time to move.
It can help to break up your exercise into 20- or 30-minute sessions that add up to about 5 or more hours per week. Walking is a great way to start. Maybe you walk 30 minutes before going to work and 30 minutes on your lunch break. You can add a few more minutes by parking farther away from your building or taking mass transit. Or you can make plans to walk with a friend after work -- you’re more likely to stick with exercise if someone else is counting on you. Plus, you can socialize at the same time.
Visit the Breastcancer.org Exercise section for tips on how to find the right exercise for you, exercising safely, and how to stick to an exercise routine.